Kasl writes: “to become aware of unfinished business in your life, ask yourself the following five questions.” Who comes to mind when I think of unresolved grief, hurt, or pain? To whom do I need to apologize? With whom do I need to talk over conflict and seek some form of resolution? To whom do... Continue Reading →

Scan your world. Is there any relationship or project or area of your life in which you have been imposing impossible conditions on your happiness? Is there any place in your life where you are telling yourself the story that you would be totally happy if only everyone else did exactly what you wanted them... Continue Reading →

A few weeks ago, my grandchildren learned about Zacchaeus in children's class at church. As they told me the story, childhood memories flooded back. I started to sing to them the song about Zacchaeus. Zacchaeus was a wee little man, And a wee little man was he. He climbed up in a sycamore tree For... Continue Reading →

What have you successfully, intentionally unlearned? And what, if anything, do you want to unlearn now? I recently unlearned that it is okay to be the first one to reach out in reconciliation. For years, I told myself if someone wants a relationship, they will reach out. I learned this from my mother, who thought... Continue Reading →

Are there subjects about which the people who know you would say you are psychologically sensitive? Things people avoid bringing up around you? Are there even smells, words, sounds or objects that bring up very painful memories for you? How intense is the pain? What do you do to avoid triggering it? Sometimes we create... Continue Reading →

Confirmation bias is a cognitive shortcut we all take, all of us humans, wherein we interpret the evidence and facts of our world to confirm our pre-existing hypotheses.  In other words, we find evidence to confirm what we already believe. In other words, if you believe the world is out to get you, or the... Continue Reading →

What are you feeling ready to give up in order to create an intentional vacuum of space for fresh, new life: . . . in your heart? . . . in your mind? . . . in your calendar? . . . and in your home? Don’t push yourself till it hurts; be gentle and... Continue Reading →

These are pretty innocuous examples, but they surface some interesting questions you can take as lightly or as deeply as you’d like: What are you telling yourself, about yourself, that’s just not true? What aren’t you giving yourself credit for? What do you think you want to be or do or have—physically, spiritually or even... Continue Reading →

At this point of my life, my most Positive Essential Quality is energy: a soul-deep, love-driven, overflowing energy to care for the people and create the projects that matter to me—the projects I know I’m here to do. The other day, my Lyft driver figured me out in a 30 minute ride. He said: “I’m... Continue Reading →