Broken Vessel #Write28Days

Broken, an adjective,defined as:

  1. having been fractured or damaged and no longer in one piece or in working order.
    • (of a marriage or other long-term relationship) having ended.
    • denoting a family in which the parents are divorced or separated.
    • (of an agreement or promise) not observed by one of the parties involved.
  2. (of a person) having given up all hope; despairing.
  3. having breaks or gaps in continuity.
    • (of speech or a language) spoken falteringly, as if overcome by emotion, or with many mistakes, as by a foreigner.
  4. having an uneven and rough surface.

Broken VesselWe are all broken.  We all have areas in are life that have been broken whether by negative events like abuse, neglect, divorce, sickness or death; or just the natural course of events like moving out of the family home, having a child, or children leaving home that create a separation in the normal working order of life. Regardless of what or who causes the brokenness in our life, how broken we think we are, or how broken others think we may be, there is a healing that can take place that creates an even stronger, more valuable vessel going forward.

In oriental countries, there is a practice called Kintsugi, an art of fixing broken pottery. Rather than camouflage broken ceramic pieces, the technique employs a  lacquer dusted with powdered gold, silver, or platinum. Once completed, beautiful seams of gold glint in the conspicuous cracks of ceramic wares, giving a one-of-a-kind appearance to each “repaired” piece. This method celebrates each artifact’s unique history by emphasizing its fractures and breaks instead of hiding or disguising them.

In addition to serving as an form of art, Kintsugi represents prevalent philosophical ideas. Namely, seeing beauty in the flawed or imperfect. The repair method expresses regret when something is wasted, as well as the acceptance of change. Kelly Richman-Abdou on September 5, 2019

The next 28 days, I will share secrets from the Word about healing your broken vessel.  God’s Word promises He will be near, He will save, He will heal and He will bind up the wounds of the brokenhearted.

Psalm 34:18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
For some healing takes place instantly.  For others, it takes a lot more time.  There is no wrong or right answer, God knows what is needed and why He needs it to happen in the way that healing comes.  God didn’t cause the brokenness, the fallen world we live in allows bad things to happen.  However, God can use them to bring about good and to bring Him glory if you will allow His richness and strength to infuse your broken vessel.
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This will be the Landing page for the #Write28Day Challenge.  Each day I will add a link for the current writing day. Word Prompts will be used as much as I can just to go with the spirit of the challenge.  This blog is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge.  The challenge is to write 28 days in February.  For more information or to get involved, go to Write28Day.
Day 10: Experience
Day 11: Ponder This
Day 14: Anemoia
Day 16: Experiment
Day 18: Effective
Day 19: Endure
Day 20: Sparrow
Day 21: Numerous
Day 22: Success
Day 23: Growth
Day 24: Opinion
Day 25: Increase
Day 26: Schedule
Day 27: Relevant
Day 28: Persistent
Day 29: Leap
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Anything is Possible #Write28Days

When you are in the midst of brokenness, everything can feel impossible, especially change and healing.  When I was younger, I would often hear adults quote Henry Ford’s  “Whether you think you can or you  think you can’t, you’re right.”  There is some truth to that, because you aren’t going to try to heal if you think it is impossible.  You are not going to try to change, if you think it is impossible.  In the Bible there is a scripture that speaks directly to this.  Matthew 19:26 But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

It doesn’t mean that God will take us out of the process.  Matthew 26:39 He went a little farther and fell on His face, and prayed, saying, “O My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as You will.” While God could have Anything is possiblekept Jesus from the cross and death, it would have changed the outcome for us all.  If Jesus hadn’t overcome death and the power of sin, we would have faced the consequences.

There are some processes that need to be walked out, regardless how painful.  Not because God is a sadist, but because He knows what lies on the other side of the journey.  Christ died so that we could be reconciled back to Him.  God knows that we have to walk out our healing so that we will be strong enough to use it for His glory.

It is hard to see how God can use our brokenness for His glory.  There is not a one size fits all answer to how it will be used for God’s glory.  What I know is that with God, anything is possible.  It might be that you will be a mouthpiece for others who are too vulnerable to speak out for justice.  It might be that your journey brings someone else to the knowledge of Christ and their path will take them to greater places.  It might be that your journey brings someone else hope in their journey.  With God you never know how He will use the brokenness and the journey to healing, but it will always amaze you on the healing side.

There have been times, where I have stood at the bedside of a patient, comforted a family or counseled with a young adult, and provided hope.  Connection occurs as I have been able to share from my personal experience.  It amazes me how much of my story I have shared in small pieces to help someone else facing the same situation.  I always wondered how one person could experience so much and still be a productive member of society, with God anything is possible!

If you are ready to start the change process, start telling yourself it is possible.  You may have to speak it until you really believe it.  Start telling yourself healing is possible.  Remind yourself daily that anything is possible.

 

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This blog post is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge. The challenge is to write 28 days in February. For more posts on this topic go to Broken Vessel.

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Anemoia #Write28Days

I was looking up synonyms for nostalgia and came across a word that I had never really heard before. In fact I couldn’t find a definition in a dictionary other than the urban dictionary online, although many posts talked of anemoia.  Anemoia is nostalgia for a time you’ve never known.

It can be fun for a moment to imagine yourself in a different time period, getting swept into a movie or song that gives you a sentimental longing or wistful affection for the past, typically for a period or place with happy personal associations.  A daydream that can easily be broken as you are mindful that it is not real.  I will often watch a movie with the thought, “I wish I could have lived in the time period” and get a little carried away in thought of how things would have been in my life if I did.  I also have the thought “Thank you God that I did not live in that time period” when I see outhouse and unsanitary living options in movies.  Those thoughts can make me thankful for where I am right now as I return to the present.Anemoia

However, often when we are hurting it is easy to leave reality and cling to the desire for that time or place.  Nostalgia for a time that we have never known.  When things were rough in my marriage, I found myself doing this a lot.  I had two refuges in my mind I would go to when I was most unhappy.

The first was a longing for what I thought would make my marriage perfect.  That takes on different definitions for different people, but in my mind I just knew that if my husband was a strong Christian man, leading our household spiritually as well as physically, financially, emotionally and in every other sense of the word, that we would not have the issues we did.  In some sense, I still believe that, but my anemoia for that was broken as I got close to other Christian wives.  When I started hearing how they talked about their spouses, I realized mine wasn’t too bad.  I would rather give him the grace that he was not living for God than have the attitude some of the ladies did.  So I changed my focus on what he was doing that I didn’t like to what he did that I did like.  It went a long way in changing our marriage.  I still want my spouse to be the spiritual leader of our household, but I am not disillusioned into thinking that everything will be perfect when he is.

The second place I would go in my mind was to my “Camelot” relationship.  This was probably the most destructive thing I could do in my marriage.  I had dated this guy for about three months prior to getting married.  It was a relationship that never ran it’s course.  It ended abruptly because I was a single parent cohabitating when I received a court order that said cohabitating was not allowed (as part of a bigger issue on child support). He didn’t have a place to live and moved out-of-state shortly after.  Because the relationship was short lived, I didn’t get to know all the little things about him that would have caused us to have issues.  In my mind, he got to be the perfect guy.  So early in my marriage, when things got tough, my mind would go to the idea that with the Camelot guy things would be different.   After I was divorced, I met up with him one day, and realized he was not “all that” we talked one other time while I was divorced and I found out he was into drugs pretty heavily.

Like I said though, when things aren’t as we think they should be, it is easy to long for a time that we have never known. The constant daydream of how life would be if you weren’t a broken vessel.  When I got remarried, and things were tough, I would find myself searching his name on the internet.  It was crazy and stupid, because I very well could have ruined the good relationship I had.  I also spent more time fantasizing than working on making the relationship, the marital covenant that I was in, work.

When we are focused on what could be, we can not work on what is.  We can’t change what is, if we are sentimentally longing or wistfully affectionate for the past.  The past is gone. The only thing that we can change is the future and that means taking action in the present to make things better.  Our actions are going to follow our thoughts, so our thoughts must be in the present.  Leave nostalgia to the movies, and live in the present.

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This blog post is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge. The challenge is to write 28 days in February. For more posts on this topic go to Broken Vessel.

 

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Broken Relationships #Write28Days

There are relationships that most of us want to have in our life. Relationships with loving parents who accept us and are proud of who we are that give us a sense of belonging. Or a relationship with extended family grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins that give us a sense of connection with our heritage. Relationships with siblings that provide protection, Relationships with friends, and coworkers that give us connection with community.

So what does a person to do when the options in those areas are just broken relationships?

Broken RelationshipsFirst you have to access is it a relationship that can be restored.  Some questions to consider: Is being in a relationship with that family member or friend physically safe?  If your safety is a concern, then it is not a healthy relationship.

Is your emotional wellbeing at risk if the relationship is restored? Will you have name calling, put-downs, negative comments, or other verbal abuse if the relationship is restored?  If your emotional well being is at stake, then it is not a healthy relationship.

Does the restored relationship put anyone else at risk?  There are several factors that could be considered with this question.  If you were abused as a child, you may now be safe in a relationship with your abuser, but would your children be?

Second you need to find out, if you decide that the relationship can be restored, is the other person also willing to restore the relationship?  Understand that if they are not in the moment ready for reconciliation, it does not mean that they will never be. My husband waited over a year for me to be in a place I was ready for reconciliation.  I waited two decades for a relationship with my grandparents.  “No” may mean, “not now”, regardless of how it looks in the moment.

Third, what steps need to be taken to reconcile the broken relationship? Is there some things that need to be said to clear the air?  The conversation may be difficult to have and difficult the hear, but somethings need to be said for healing to occur.  Are there boundaries that need to be set? Sometimes there are clear lines that need to be drawn by one or both parties for the wellbeing of all involved.

Lastly, are there relationships that you have or can establish to help fill some of the gaps where relationships do not exist or are not healthy?  Just because you can not have a relationship with the person you want, does not mean that you can not have the need met through another relationship.   I was blessed that when my grandparents and paternal family stepped out of my life, my husband’s family filled the void left.  They were an amazing support to me and took me in even before I was officially part of the family as one of their own.

Restoration in a relationship should have a boundary of  safety.  There are times that this can occur under certain circumstances – like clear boundaries in a public area or under the direct supervision of another person who has the ability and willingness to intervene if needed.

Broken relationships can take a toll on the soul.  Some relationships do not need to be restored.  Other relationships need to be evaluated.  Sometimes conversations need to be had and boundaries be put into place for healing to occur.  When relationship needs are not met by those who should fill the roles, it is possible to have others step in and meet the needs.  Broken relationships happen to us all, only we can decide how we fill the gaps those relationships leave, can we heal them or do we move on and heal ourselves.

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This blog post is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge. The challenge is to write 28 days in February. For more posts on this topic go to Broken Vessel.

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Surprise, Surprise! #Write28Days

Surprise,Surprise

I think the biggest surprise to me in my personal healing process has been that just when I think I healed in one area, suprise, suprise, I realize I’m not. I have realized that just as God takes us from faith to faith and glory to glory, He also takes us from level to level in healing. He knows that we can’t do all of the work up front. He lets us get to the point that we can walk out our healing successfully. Then He takes us to a deeper level in the healing process.

A few years ago I was hurt by someone I thought I could trust. The hurt went deeper than it might have as I had trusted her in a position of holding one of my deepest dreams. It went deeper because I had trusted her in a position of authority in my life, one I had placed her in. Then to top it all off, she was a woman of authority in the body of Christ, which hurt my already fragile relationship with other women in the body.

I had to start with forgiving those who were also involved with her. A few had warned me of her intent, but it had fallen on deaf ears. Others didn’t have my back, but I also had not really allowed them to know me well enough to see through the lies. One knew, but other than giving me the information in a roundabout way did not want to risk her own position to stand on the truth. Once I was able to let go of the anger, I had to move on to forgiveness. Then I had to make amends with those ladies. Then I had to do something to bless each of them.

It took on different looks with each person involved. Some received and while I will never call them friends, there is a mutual kindness when I see them. Others I still go to for help and they come to me when there is something I can do to help out. One refuses to talk to me, and I am at peace with that as I’ve done my part to live at peace with her.

Finally, all of you be like-minded and sympathetic, love one another, and be compassionate and humble, not paying back evil for evil or insult for insult but, on the contrary, giving a blessing, since you were called for this, so that you may inherit a blessing. 1 Peter 3:8‭-‬9 CSB

I also had to forgive myself, for playing into the trap, for not heeding the warning, for allowing her actions to take me back to holding a grudge. Once I let go of the unforgiveness, I had to work at tearing back down the walls I wanted to protect me. Then I started working on letting those dreams resurface and come back alive. Now I am being called to walk it all out.

For the gifts and the calling of God are irrevocable. Romans 11:29

I can’t allow what happened to derail what I feel God placed on my heart. As much as I wanted to, I could not allow the hurt to close me off from others. I had to, have to, need to, and now want to walk out my healing. From allowing myself to walk in the pain, to acknowledging what happened, to forgiving myself, and forgiving others, I had to chose to take it to the next level. Then I had to reach out and make amends even if the relationship could not be repaired or should not be restored to its previous status. Then came praying for and finding a way to bless those who hurt me. And then tearing down my own walls and allowing the dreams and passion to resurface. Now I have to get back to walking it out. And surprise, surprise God is there every step of the way giving me the grace to walk my healing out. He is rekindling the dreams of my heart.
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This blog post is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge. The challenge is to write 28 days in February. For more posts on this topic go to Broken Vessel.

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It isn’t exact #write28days

I wish that healing was an exact science. Unlike most sciences, there is not a magic ratio to healing that given in the right dose, for the right amount of time in the right combination. It would be nice if it was that simple.

If you knew that given a certain amount of the right medicine that the pain you are experiencing would be over. If you knew eventually, the inner turmoil would come to an end. If you knew that the process of healing would erase any effects of the hurt you went through. But healing is not exact.

There are things that will help in the healing process.  Unfortunately, what works for one doesn’t  always help the next person, even if the hurts are similar in nature.  For some, healing comes quickly.  For others, healing takes years, decades, even a lifetime.  It isn’t exact.

itisntexactHealing isn’t exact, but it is possible.  Sometimes the journey seems harder than the hurt. You have to hold on to the knowledge that the healing wholeness will be worth it in the end. It can feel like you take one step forward and two steps back.  You have to hold on to the fact that you are making progress, even if it is slow.  It can feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, but there is.  It isn’t exact, but it will be exactly what you need in the end.

I often look back at my own life and question how I could have made it through.  Although I have not experienced tragedies that others have, I have experienced a lot of things that could have destroyed me.  I know that because oft he work I have done, the things I have seen others go through that are so close to my own journey.  I try to let those people know, I have walked that path too.  Healing, it isn’t exact, it isn’t easy but healing is possible if you want it enough.  

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This blog post is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge. The challenge is to write 28 days in February. For more posts on this topic go to Broken Vessel.

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Ponder This #Write28Days

 

Ponder a verb meaning think about (something) carefully, especially before making a decision or reaching a conclusion.

Many times, especially when I’m not at my best mentally because I am hurting and broken, I make poor decisions and reach wrong conclusions based on faulty information. How we think about ourself and our circumstances and what we think about our past, present and future can greatly impact not only our attitude but also our actions.

Our spirit can ponder on the things that our soul (mind, will and emotions) is focused on or we can ponder on the things of God.

At night I remember my music; I meditate in my heart, and my spirit ponders. Psalms 77:6CSB

Instead, his delight is in the Lord ’s instruction, and he meditates on it day and night. Psalms 1:2 CSB

This book of instruction must not depart from your mouth; you are to meditate on it day and night so that you may carefully observe everything written in it. For then you will prosper and succeed in whatever you do. Joshua 1:8 CSBPonderthis

So how do we change what we are pondering and meditating on?

Philippians 4:8 gives us a few things to check our thoughts against.

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. 

When you ponder this, is it true?  Does it line up with what God’s Word says?  If it doesn’t, stop the thoughts, you will reach the wrong decision and conclusion if it is not true.

When you ponder this, is it noble? Will it lead you to a decision that is honorable, and self respecting in conduct?  If not, what would it take for you to be able to walk in self-respect with the decision you will make?

When you ponder this, is it just?  Are you being judgmental?  Will the decision or conclusion you may line up with God’s will?  If not how can you turn your thoughts towards God’s will in the situation?

When you ponder this, is it pure?  Are you looking for fault?  Are your thoughts clean?  If not, how can you reframe what you are thinking about to fine the pure and clean?

When you ponder this, is it lovely?  Would the decision or conclusion you would come to with your line of thoughts be acceptable and pleasing in God’s sight?  If not how can you adjust your thoughts to make them lovely?

When you ponder this, is it of good report?  If you needed to share your thoughts, would they be of good report? Would you want someone to say the same things about you?  Are you offering good will in your thoughts? If not, how can you adjust your thoughts to line up with truth but also offering good will?

When you ponder this, is it of virtue?  Are your thoughts morally good?  If not, how might you turn your thoughts around to give it a sense of excellence?

When you are pondering this, is it praiseworthy?  Would your thoughts cause someone else to give praise to the situation or person?  If not, how can you change your thoughts?

There are times that the things that flow through our mind will not meet any of the criteria above.  The key is to take those thoughts captive and stop pondering on thoughts that do not meet the criteria above. Replace those thoughts with something from God’s Word that will meet  the above criteria.

When we make decisions or draw conclusions on things that we should not be pondering, we stand to made poor choices.  Instead we should let our decisions and conclusions be based on the Word of God and the criteria of what He tells us to meditate on if we can not find a specific Word that directs us.

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This blog post is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge. The challenge is to write 28 days in February. For more posts on this topic go to Broken Vessel.

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Experience #Write28Days

Why would God allow me to experience this?  I am often met with that question.  How a God who is suppose to be good, who is all knowing, and all powerful can permit all the evil that is allowed in the world.  It is so easy to want to put it on Him.  For a long time, I put a lot on Him that really had little to do with Him.  I wrestled with some demons that tried to destroy me as I traveled down that thought path.

God in all His sovereignty chose to allow us free will.  To do anything other, would make us robots.  Because we have free will, people are allowed to make bad choices which often impact good people.   God can use all things for His glory, but not all things are done for His glory.  We experience bad things because evil lives in this world along side of God.    God wants us to choose Him, not be forced to love and serve Him.

God in all His goodness, is reflected in the lives of those who make good decisions.  His enemy, our enemy the devil is reflected in every bad action.  We would not know good how the good things we experience if there was not a contrast to the unpleasant or bad experiences.  Sometimes good people make decisions that align with God’s will.  Somethings good people make decisions that are against God’s will.  Just as some people who are truly evil do at times make decisions to do something good.  Light shines brightest in the darkness.

ExperienceGod in all His wisdom knows what will happen.  He is not surprised by what we experience.  He is right there alongside of us in the experience.  He sees it before it happens.  He sees it happen.  He knows the affects it will have on the lives of all involved or influenced by the experience. He does not exist in time, as we do.  He lives in the eternal.

God in all His power uses restraint.  He must for His word says in Romans 3:23  All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.  This next scripture is where it gets real when I think about the power that I would like God to use against those  have hurt me.  It tore up my world when I wanted that power to be used against those who do the most vile, unspeakable things.  For whoever shall keep the whole law, and yet stumble in one point, he is guilty of all. James 2:10

In His power, we would all be worthy of the wrath of His power.  The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life in Jesus Christ our Lord. Romans 6:23 It is because of His goodness that He does not give us what we deserve.   Instead we need to look for how we can get glory to God in our experiences, not only the good but also those experiences that have broken us.

God is good. God is all knowing.  God is all powerful.  God gave us freewill, and unfortunately that means that bad things will happen because we live in a sin filled world.  God does not cause bad things.  He is there with us in them and through them.  He can use our experiences for His glory if we will turn to Him in our pain instead of away from Him.

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This blog post is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge. The challenge is to write 28 days in February. For more posts on this topic go to Broken Vessel.

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Un-learn the learned #Write28Days

There are many lessons that we learn from being broken that as we are healing have to be unlearned.

unlearnI have heard it quoted that research shows it takes 20 to 40 positives to overcome every negative thing we hear.  Most people are not broken by being encouraged and uplifted by others.  Instead there are negative messages that are spoke for weeks, months, years and decades that have to be unlearned.  Usually there are not people that are going to take the time to really pour in that much positive into on person’s life.  So some of that positive is going to have to come from self-talk.  Going back to yesterday’s post, God’s Word provides a lot of positive that you can use to combat the lies.  Learning what the Creator says about His masterpiece (aka You) is the only way to really be able to know the truth of who you are.

Another lesson that has to be unlearned is the filters by which you have learned to interpret your world.  When a filter is based on false information that is believed to be true, it skews the way you experience the world.  I can share an example from my own life.

When I was about six years old my father was incarcerated for sexual abuse of a minor.  Although at six I knew this information, I didn’t really understand what that really meant.  Up to that point in my life, as a family with siblings eight and ten years older, I was dragged all over the place for their activities – sports, band, church events, etc.   By the time he was integrated back into the house, my siblings were headed out of the house.  What I experienced was no parental involvement in my activities or even encouragement to participate in extracurricular activities.

What my young self did not know is that registered sexual offenders can not be around children.  What I saw was that I was not as important as my siblings.  I thought my parents didn’t care about me as much.  I was dropped off at the door alone if I participated in activities.  Certainly that shaped a lot of my thinking and some actions that were very unhealthy as I sought love and acceptance in other places.  I carried those same thoughts into  other relationships.  I had to unlearn the filter of rejection when I was an older adult with grown children.

Another lesson that has to be unlearned is that you have to do whatever you can to protect yourself.  This can come in the form of walls you build. Or it could be not letting anyone get close to you. Or it could be that you can not depend on other people.  It may come in another form.  Or any combination of these.  These are all lies that keep you from true relationship with others.  These lies allow the one that hurt you continue to control you. Walls trap you in, they do not protect you.  We were designed to need other people, and to let other people depend on us.

We all have lessons that we accept as true that are not true.  These lessons shape our thoughts and the way we interact with the world around us.  However, if healing is going to take place, there are some lessons that need to be unlearned.  Lies that have shaped who we are need to be unlearned.  Misunderstandings that have filtered the way that we interpret the world around us need to be unlearned.  And messages that we need to isolate ourselves for self-protection allow an aspect of control to continue from the own that initially hurt us.  It is not easy to unlearn things so deeply engrained in our lives, but the Word of God is a great place to start in replacing some of those lies.

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This blog post is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge. The challenge is to write 28 days in February. For more posts on this topic go to Broken Vessel.

 

 

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Explore the Word #Write28Days

The Bible is the living Word of God. In my own healing process, it has been the single best tool in my journey. Although I grew up memorizing scriptures and hearing the stories found in the Bible, it was only over the past two decades that I have learned that I can apply it to my own life. The Bible has went from being a book that I had to read to one that I treasure having time to really delve in to. Yes, there are still parts I don’t understand or find less interesting, but over the years even some of those areas I have pulled nuggets of treasure from.

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How does the Bible aid in the healing process?

  • The Bible tells us that Jesus died for our complete healing, not just to save us from hell.
  • The Bible reveals the character of God towards us.
  • The Bible reveals who we are in Christ.
  • The Bible reveals the promises of God available to us in Christ Jesus.
  • The Bible lays our how we should live.
  • The Bible tells us that the Holy Spirit makes it possible to live as God’s Word lays out.

I started to list out some scriptures, but there are many websites and books that list scriptures that are available. I would encourage you to search out scripture that speak to your situation. You will be surprised what you find.

If you use a book or website to get you started, I would recommend looking up the scripture references in the Bible for yourself.

There is something about letting God’s Word speak directly to you from the pages of His Word. People make errors in typing and translation. We tend to read through the eyes of our own culture and interpret through our personal history.

There are tools like the YouVersion app or websites like Biblegateway.com where you can look at several versions of the same scripture. Another helpful tool is Blue Letter Bible, which has multiple translations available but also has study resources to help you understand the meaning of words in the original language. It can be easy to get confused by all the different versions available and people’s opinions of those versions. Looking at different Bible versions may help you gain understanding as some look at things strictly from word definition (which can change over time). Others look at the original word and meaning it had at the time. Still others look at the overall spirit of what was being conveyed. Look at different ones, and let Holy Spirit speak through the Word.

When you find in your exploration of the Word something that really resonates within you, write it down. Memorize it if you can. Post it where you will see it.

I have journaled Bible verses for over two decades. I am always amazed at how the same verse can speak so many different things to me over the years based on where I am, but the Word really is living. I typically write down the scripture, and then how it speaks to me – how I feel it applies to my life right where I am. Sometimes it is a few sentences other times it is pages. Sometimes I break down the words in the scripture and other times only one word in the verse speaks to me. I end with my response back to God usually a prayer asking forgiveness, thanking Him or asking for help walking out what I have just learned. You can see some on the link above called Growth.

There is no wrong way for you to explore the Bible. It doesn’t have to be hard. You may want to start with just one scripture or chapter. If you have never read the Bible, you might start in Matthew, Mark, Luke or John (the gospels, found in the New Testament). Romans or Ephesians is also a good place to start. The point is, just make a choice to start exploring and let God’s Word work in you and then through you. What do you have to lose?

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This blog post is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge. The challenge is to write 28 days in February. For more posts on this topic go to Broken Vessel.

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Enough is enough #write28days

Only you can decide when your need for healing is greater than your need to hold on to what broke you. You alone can start the journey to healing as you choose to start the healing process.

You are the only one  who can decide when enough is enough.  Only when you are ready to make changes can things change.  Beth Moore writes “Our hearts often translate sudden and dramatic change as either instability or a form of loss.  Sometimes it hits us as both.” Because of this, only when you are ready to make changes towards healing.  Change will rock your world, even if it is a good change.  It will mean letting go of things that you have held on to for too long.  Tearing off things that have held on to you for a long time.

Sometimes people don’t  feel they are worthy of anything better than what they have known their whole life, or since the beginning of the brokenness.  I can only say that you deserve better.  Right where you are, you are enough.  You are enough to say “My enough is enough. I have had enough.  So enough is enough.”

This has little to do with anything above, but it is a story that a preacher shared once, that has stayed with me and I always think of when I hear the word Enough.  I will leave you with these thoughts.

“I Wish You Enough”

I overheard a Father and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure. Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the Father said, ‘I love you, and I wish you enough.’ The daughter replied, ‘Dad, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Dad.’ They kissed and the daughter left. The Father walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, “Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?”

“Yes, I have,” I replied. “Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?” .

“I am old, and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is – the next trip back will be for my funeral,” he said.

“When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, ‘I wish you enough.’ May I ask what that means?'” He began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.” He paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and he smiled even more. “When we said, ‘I wish you enough, we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them.”

Then turning toward me, he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.

“I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good- bye.”

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them; but then an entire life to forget them.

 

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This blog post is inspired by Anita Ojeda and the #Write28Days Challenge. The challenge is to write 28 days in February. For more posts on this topic go to Broken Vessel.

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